This page is designed to provide you with resources to help you, your spouse and your children learn more about the divorce process, and to give you tools to better cope with the emotions and the issues that arise.
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COLLABORATIVE FAMILY LAW
COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE - About half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. The unfortunate reality is that most of these divorces result in unnecessary collateral damage, as the family issues involved are far too complex and personal for a court to address. Now there is a better way.
 
THE COLLABORATIVE WAY TO DIVORCE
 
ADOPTION TOPICS
THE OPEN ADOPTION EXPERIENCE - Two leading experts provide an authoritative and reassuring guide to the issues and concerns of adoptive and birth families through all stages of the open adoption relationship.
 
THE SPIRIT OF OPEN ADOPTION
 
LIFEGIVERS: FRAMING THE BIRTHPARENT EXPERIENCE IN OPEN ADOPTION
 
DEAR BIRTHMOTHER - This is the third revised edition of the open adoption classic recommended by the Child Welfare League of America. Gently provocative, warm and convincing, this open adoption guide includes actual letters between adoptive parents and birthparents, and between the latter and the children they have.
 
BECAUSE I LOVED YOU: A BIRTHMOTHER'S VIEW OF OPEN ADOPTION - For the first time, a birthmother shares a story where regrets are replaced with respect, pain is replaced with love, and secrecy is replaced with honesty. Author Patricia Dischler provides a poignant and moving narrative, notable for its honesty. Patricia chose an open adoption arrangement for her son Joe in 1985. He is now an adult and their story has come full circle.
 
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YOUR KIDS AND DIVORCE
MOM'S HOUSE, DAD'S HOUSE
 
DINOSAURS DIVORCE - Friendly dinosaurs in the throes difficult divorce situations reassure readers in similar straits that everything will be all right. Ages 4-8.
 
HELPING YOUR KIDS COPE WITH DIVORCE THE SANDCASTLE WAY - Kids tend to blame themselves when parents divorce. The Sandcastles workshop--now mandatory in over a dozen counties throughout the United States--is a half-day group session for children of divorce between the ages of 6 and 17. This intensive workshop helps kids open up and deal with their feelings through drawings, games, poetry, role playing, and other activities. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce details many of the workshop exercises, all designed to increase communication, understanding, and togetherness between parents and kids.
 
DIVORCE IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD
This short book is pretty good for helping kids between 9 and 15, say, cope with separation and divorce. It's written by two (obviously unusually literate and relationship-savvy) kids, and their mom. It discusses feelings of guilt, anger, managing belongings between two houses, planning birthdays and other events, avoiding manipulation by parents, sharing your thoughts with friends and parents, finding the bright side of a sad situation, dealing with parents' boyfriends/girlfriends, with step-parents, and with step-siblings.
 
RELATIONSHIP AWARENESS/COMMUNICATIONS
TAKING THE POWER STRUGGLE OUT OF PARENTING - This audio book, and it's author, are both amazing. The Stockdale Law Firm recommends this for parents of children of all ages (yes, even adults).
 
TAKING THE WAR OUT OF WORDS - Whether we are dealing with a rude clerk, our child saying, "That's not fair!," our spouse ignoring us, or an uncooperative co-worker, in our struggle to respond effectively, we often become defensive - sometimes without even realizing it. Despite good intentions, we can become manipulative and controlling, even with those we love most.
 
THE VERBALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
 
DIVORCE SELF HELP
HOW TO SOLVE DIVORCE PROBLEMS IN CALIFORNIA - As many as 70 percent of California divorces encounter problems, and this book addresses them with clarity and common sense. It helps both Respondents and Petitioners in problem cases, covering everything from mild disagreements to flat-out warfare. It helps readers define strategies, protect themselves, negotiate for a fair settlement, make motions that get the court’s attention, demand and obtain information from the other side, and handle the case in court if it comes down to that. Blank tear-out forms and a CD-ROM of forms and additional resources are included.
 
HOW TO DO YOUR OWN DIVORCE IN CALIFORNIA - How to Do Your Own Divorce in California covers everything a Californian needs to know about filing for divorce. Part one details how property can be divided and how to settle issues of custody, visitation and child support. Part two explains the court process step by step. Blank tear-out copies of all the court forms needed for an uncontested dissolution are included, along with a CD-ROM containing many resources including forms, worksheets, and a trial version of CalSupport software.
 
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